I feel the warm air on my skin and taste the ripe watermelon as the juice drips off my chin, luxuriating in my senses. Author Leo Lionni’s mouse Frederick collects colors during the summer and fall to call upon during the long, dark winter months. Savoring pleasurable moments is an investment into your personal resilience account; withdraw as needed.
Having just returned from Mexico I am reminded of the importance of stepping away from our routines into spontaneity. When we let go of inhibitions we open ourselves to the magic of the unexpected like the moment I walked onto the sand under a full moon to discover a sea turtle laying her eggs. I sat on the beach for the next several hours in a state of awe, open to the gift the moment had to offer.
Praise for laughter, sunshine, and endless summer days.
“It is a human need to laugh, to feel awe, and to delight in our senses. This may require that we become selfish and cultivate opportunities in your life to experience pleasure. Say yes to that which truly nourishes and excites you. Your body and mind will thank you.”
-Dr. Arielle Schwartz
The flowers in my garden are in full bloom right now. Unapologetically open to the world, unabashedly colorful. No one would ever criticize a blossom or a sunset for being too bright or taking up too much space. But how many times have you dulled your own brilliance for fear that people might judge you for being conceited or grandiose?
Have you internalized the belief that celebrating a good thing might make it go away? Does guilt interfere with your ability to feel joy? To be “selfish” has gotten a bad reputation especially when being selfish is a key that can unlock pleasure. Stephanie Vozza with Fast Company identifies 4 reasons why being selfish is good for you:
It is time to reclaim your own capacity to bloom fully. You have permission to linger and luxuriate in the beauty of who you are. Express your creativity. Say yes to that which truly nourishes and delights you. Fill your cup. Share it with others when it feels right…but don’t give it all away. Fill your cup for you.
I love all forms of laughter; pee in my pants laughter, forbidden laughter in the lecture hall, tears streaming down my face laughter. I love spending time with people that crack me up and those that help me laugh when I take myself too seriously. Yes, laughter is another key that unlocks pleasure.
Laughter is good for us. Psychologist, Robert Provine from the University of Maryland, studied 1,200 episodes of laughter revealing that laughter reduces stress, reduces pain by releasing endorphins, fosters a healthy immune system, helps us learning, and fosters empathy. Laughter is said to synchronize our brains. In his book, Primal Leadership, Daniel Goleman writes “In a neurological sense, laughing represents the shortest distance between two people because it instantly interlocks limbic systems.”
Explosions of spontaneous laughter often occur when we open ourselves to the element of surprise. Like the game of peek-a-boo with a child, bursts of authentic delight occur as we play with the timing and shift expectations. Taking a close look at the role of the reward systems in our brains, our dopamine pathway signals the release of endogenous opiates (natural pleasure inducing chemicals). Dopamine responds to novel or unexpected experiences and rewards us with a burst of pleasure. So, step out of your comfort zone, release your inhibitions, and go ahead, let out a giggle, a chuckle, a chortle, a guffaw, or flat out roll on the ground.
Walking onto the beach last week to discover the sea turtle filled me with awe. Pausing to appreciate the colors of the sunset can take my breath away. Listening to the sound of the wind rustling the aspen leaves stops me in my tracks.
Pleasurable emotions have been a focus of recent research to better understand the role of positivity on health and immune system functioning. Researchers at the University of California, Berkeley have turned their attention towards awe, along with other pleasant emotions such as love, amusement, and contentment. They found that awe was most strongly associated with a decrease of inflammation in the body as measured by lower levels of interleukin-6, a molecule that produces inflammation throughout the body. The good news is that feelings of awe may be easier to come by than we might think.
Take the time to reflect on what which inspires you and delights your senses. Maybe you find awe in the sound of children laughing, or the way the light falls upon your garden, or in the savoring of chocolate on your tongue. Slow down and receive the gifts of the moment.
Focusing on pleasure sometimes takes practice to override our tendency to notice discomfort or pain. I offer this pleasure centered meditation as part of my regular therapeutic yoga classes. This practice invites you to attune to positive sensations in your body nourishing yourself in the sensate experience of pleasure. Enjoy…
It is a human need to laugh, to feel awe, and to delight in our senses. This requires that we become selfish sometimes. Cultivate opportunities in your life to experience pleasure. Say yes, to that which truly nourishes you and excites you. Your body and mind will thank you.
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Dr. Arielle Schwartz is a licensed clinical psychologist, wife, and mother in Boulder, CO. She offers trainings for therapists, maintains a private practice, and has passions for the outdoors, yoga, and writing. Dr. Schwartz is the author of The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole (Fall, 2016). She is the developer of Resilience-Informed Therapy which applies research on trauma recovery to form a strength-based, trauma treatment model that includes Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), somatic (body-centered) psychology and time-tested relational psychotherapy. Like Dr. Arielle Schwartz on Facebook, follow her on Linkedin and sign up for email updates to stay up to date with all her posts.
Arielle Schwartz, PhD, is a psychologist, internationally sought-out teacher, yoga instructor, and leading voice in the healing of PTSD and complex trauma. She is the author of five books, including The Complex PTSD Workbook, EMDR Therapy and Somatic Psychology, and The Post Traumatic Growth Guidebook.
Dr. Schwartz is an accomplished teacher who guides therapists in the application of EMDR, somatic psychology, parts work therapy, and mindfulness-based interventions for the treatment of trauma and complex PTSD. She guides you through a personal journey of healing in her Sounds True audio program, Trauma Recovery.
She has a depth of understanding, passion, kindness, compassion, joy, and a succinct way of speaking about very complex topics. She is the founder of the Center for Resilience Informed Therapy in Boulder, Colorado where she maintains a private practice providing psychotherapy, supervision, and consultation. Dr. Schwartz believes that that the journey of trauma recovery is an awakening of the spiritual heart.
